My Approach to Couples therapy

I use a model called Emotionally Focused Therapy, or EFT. EFT has been validated by over 30 years of empirical research, meaning there is scientific research showing how successful it can be. Over 70% of couples using EFT shifted from distressed to happy, and 90% significantly improved after 15-20 sessions. Most importantly, the results were consistent two years later. Along with EFT, Estee brings years of experience doing thai chi, art therapy and meditation on the mind-body connection.


What is EFT?

EFT is a short term (8 to 20 sessions) structured approach, developed for couples therapy and based on attachment science. It involves a systemic approach to restructuring dialogues between partners based on each individual's unique emotional experience. The goals of EFT are to better understand our key emotional responses and in the process, honor each person's unique story, and to create a positive shift in partners' interactional patterns.


What makes EFT effective for couples?

EFT addresses the heart of the internal patterns that lead to fighting and defensiveness. Recognizing how negative patterns develop as partners try to cope with painful feelings and unmet needs allows couples to find secure attachment without blame. Both partners will be asked to look at their unique contributions to these negative patterns. Painful arguments and distance begin to make sense, the negative cycle can be interrupted when it starts, and connection can take the place of distance.